Why Marriage Matters to Conservatives

Why does marriage matter to same-sex couples?

Marriage matters to gay people in similar ways that it matters to everyone. Gay and lesbian couples want to get married to make a lifetime commitment to the person they love and to protect their families.

Why does the freedom marry matter to young conservatives?

A growing number of young conservatives are supporting the freedom to marry as an extension of personal freedom. Young conservatives want to see their gay friends, family members and colleagues share in the public promise of love and responsibility that marriage entails.

They also understand that marriage is about liberty and limited government.

Marriage says “We are family” in a way no other word does.

  • Gay and lesbian couples may seem different from straight couples, but they share similar values like the importance of family, helping out our neighbors and standing in front of friends and family to make a lifetime commitment.
  • Couples get married because they want to be there for each other in sickness and in health, when times are good and when things get tough. State and federal marriage laws provide a safety net of legal and economic protections for married couples and their children — including the ability to visit your spouse in the hospital and to transfer property, which can mean being able to remain in the family home when your spouse has passed away.
  • There have been attempts to create marriage-like relationship systems, but they don’t provide the same security and protections. In many states, same-sex couples that have domestic partnerships have been barred from a dying partner’s bedside, and denied the ability to say goodbye to the person they love. That just doesn’t happen when you’re married.

Allowing same-sex couples to get married does not change the meaning of marriage.

  • All couples who marry in the United States must get a license for a civil marriage, usually at a courthouse or city hall. These civil marriages would also be available to same-sex couples.
  • Civil marriage for gay couples does not affect religious marriages, religious institutions or clergy in any way. No religion would be forced to marry same-sex couples, or recognize same-sex marriages within the context of their religious beliefs.