“We Wanted to Be a Family”
January 24, 2011
Why do people get married? There are plenty of practical reasons that might not be so romantic – but for most of us, it's to bring a relationship to the next level. It's a declaration of love and commitment in front of family, friends, and the world. That was the reason for Chris Herbert and Tim Long. Their wedding north of New York City last fall happened to get a bit of a higher profile by being featured in Martha Stewart Weddings (Chris is Martha's nephew).
Chris and Tim dated for several years before deciding to tie the knot. Like many couples, they met through work – Tim is a pianist and conductor, and Chris isa classical singer. After an audition by Chris at the Aspen Music Festival, Tim says he just couldn't get him out of his head. The pair connected through music, after a while started dating, then finally moved in together in New York.
While on a family vacation in 2009 they decided to take the next big step. "We wanted to be a family – officially," Tim says. When they broke the news to relatives who were on vacation with them, Chris says it triggered a "big group family hug." And when Aunt Martha found out a few days later, she graciously offered her farm as a venue. The next year, the happy couple had alegal ceremony in Massachusetts that coincided with a family reunion, then repeated their vows at a wedding with Martha's horse stables as the backdrop ona gorgeous day. is working hard this year with New York Statelegislators and groups so that Chris and Tim could have had the option ofhaving their legal wedding in the state, if that's what they wanted.
Chrisand Tim feel lucky that their parents were so supportive, since they realizethat not all gay couples have that. Indeed, one of their reasons for getting married was to bring their two families together. They are also mindful of the fact that gay couples can't get married in most of America. Tim points out,"The fact that we have to fight for marriage forces us to really consider what it's really about."
You can see more pictures from Chris and Tim's wedding day in this great audio slideshow.
Also, check out this video of the wedding day: